Funeral Etiquette

The accepted behavior and dress in a funeral have changed over time, but the old fashion courtesy never goes out of style. Here are some things we would like you to know about funeral etiquette. 

Making the Most of a Difficult Time

It is a high priority to know what ethnic, personal or religious considerations you need to take into account. And being respectful of the emotions of close friends and family. 

Here are a few things that are expected of you:

- Offer sympathy.
When we encounter something as final as death we can be at a loss for words. Be humble and listen attentively when spoken to, and offer your own words of condolence as best as you can. 

- Find out what to wear.
The dress code could be anything these days but it is best to find out from the family. The deceased may have stated a dress code such as 'no black' being a normal request. If you couldn't find the wished of the family, then dress conservatively and avoid standing out. 

- Give a gift from the heart. 
It doesn't matter if it is a donation to a charity, flowers, or providing a service to the family at a later date. Try to make sure if you get a gift to provide a signed card, so they know who gave the gift.  

- Sign the register book.
Make sure to include your name an relationship to the deceased. This will help the family know who you are in the future.

- Stay in touch.
It may be uncomfortable to do so, but grieving doesn't end at the funeral for most people. 

What Should you not Do?

- Don't feel that you have to stay the whole time.
If you make a trip during the calling hours there is absolutely no reason your stay have to be long.

- Don't be afraid to laugh in the right time.
A great way to remember a loved one is to share a funny story. Just be mindful of the place and time. There is always a goo reason you should talk about the deceased in a positive tone.

- Don't feel you have to see the deceased if there is an open casket.
Do what is most comfortable to you. 

- Don't let your child be a disturbance.
If you feel like your children may be a distraction then we kindly ask that you leave them with a sitter. If the deceased was important then we invite them to share in the experience. 

- Don't leave your phone on.
Turn of your phone before entering the funeral home. What is sadly becoming normal is that people are checking their cell phones during a service.

- Don't neglect to go into the receiving line.
Simply say how sorry you are for their loved one, tell them your name and how you knew the deceased.

- Don't be hard on yourself if something happens. 
Everyone make mistakes, but an apology can be all that is needed to soothe and heal. 

When it's over, you can remember to continue to offer support. The next few months are a time when friends and relatives need you the most. Let them know that they still have your support. 


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